FolakeAJ

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  • Giving

    You can’t pour from an empty cup. You can’t keep giving and giving. It will drain you.

  • Limiting

    Am I limiting myself with my words unconsciously?

    I can be anything, as long as it is part of God’s plan for me. There is a no limit to the number of hats I can wear.

    Dragons Den, Investor, Equity business owner, Banker, Financial and Mindset coach, Young people Financial coach, travel will feature in something.  Should I?

  • Left Out

    Do you sometimes feel the whole world is moving ahead without you? Feelings of this second. Must dispel it.

    I must not wallow

  • Settled

    I  feel settled  in my head. It is a good feeling to not be negatively overwhelmed.  Sure, there are stressful periods. However, I am not having that feeling of helplessness. This is a good space to be in.

    I thought of visiting Nigeria to pay respects at my dad’s resting place. But I canceled the tickets . It did not feel like the right time.

    We celebrated 15 years of marriage.  It was a good day. I can’t believe Mana is now in Year 4. Wow. How time flies.

  • -Day 184

    I missed reading my Bible after 184 days. My counter set to back to 1 today, 5th July.  I am beyond gutted. I can blame it on a number of things. But I have to take responsibility for not prioritizing. Was it exhaustion?  Waking up late for school runs and dashing out?? I did remember to pray and even attended the end of year service at school, though, but I just didn’t get around to reading my Bible on day 185. 4th of July.

    It was a non-stop day. Dentist, then school run, then back home, then work, then cooked, then rushed out to drop mum at town centre, then went to school mass then picked up Toni and came home then checked Amazon order, then left the house again to go for piano then came back and logged in and continued working.

    I am truly gutted. I made it 50% of the way through the year.

    Folake be kind to yourself self. You haven’t failed yet.. Pick yourself up and continue.

  • Blast from the past. 28/05/2007

    Just stumbled on this.
    Looking through old emails for my school awards group.  We were trying to determine when we started giving awards in school to the top 3 commercials students from the top 3 ex commercial students of the graduating class of 1996.

    Thank you for giving me the opportunity to feature in your magazine.



    Keep up the good work, and I hope I get to see a copy of the magazine once it is published.



    I do not currently have a picture of me on my POP day, I will endeavour to get my hands on a copy, as soon as I do so, I will scan it and send it to you guys. In the meantime time, do find attached a personal picture. It was taken last year, and it’s hopefully still a reflection of what I look like!






    YEAR OF GRADUATION FROM AFGCS: 1996

    WAECRESULT:(VOLUNTARY): Not know.

    NAME OF UNIVERSITY AND YEAR OF GRADUATION: London Guildhall University. 2002

    COURSE OF STUDY: BA Accounting with Computing

    CLASS OF DEGREE: 1st Class Degree Honours

    MARITAL STATUS: Single

    PRE3SENT STATUS: Qualified as a Chartered Accountant with Siemens and currently working as the Management Accountant of a newly start up company called Pipex Wireless. (Not sure if correct answer to question)

    AWARDS WON :(IF ANY): Received an award for the most outstanding result in my 1st year of University and, on graduation, received an award for the best overall result in the Business school.

    APPOINTMENTS HELD WHILE IN AFGCS/AFGMS: Blue House JNCO

    PERSONAL CHALLENGES:

    ONE UNFORGETABLE EXPERIENCE WHILE IN SCHOOL IN AFGCS: On the funny side, blue house girls having the audacity to take pictures in front of officers on the day we got shaved in the middle of SSCE! In full make up. But on the serious side, throwing our beret’s in the air on P.O.P day.

    A MESSAGE FOR THE PEARL MMAGAZINE ON HER 10TH ANNIVERSARY OR FOR THE INSTITUTION:In secondary school, we were taught the sky was our limit. We were privileged to have been educated in one of the best schools in Nigeria (My personal opinion). Even though school was tough, we learnt a lot of valuable lessons on friendship, loyalty, working together as a team, humbleness, discipline, and perseverance.  All these lessons have amounted to make each and every one of us what we are today. I owe my achievements and the person I am today first of all to God, to my parents for sending me to AFGMS/AFGCS, to the officers and civilian teachers who taught and supported us, to the sergeants who drilled us and to the cooks who fed us. I pray as we celebrate our 20 year anniversary we will not forget our roots and where we started from. We owe it to ourselves and the future sets to continue to support and appreciate our school in whatever way we can. The most significant decision we can make each day is our choice of an attitude. When our attitudes are right there’s no barrier too high, no valley too deep, no dream too extreme, no challenge too great for us to accomplish. Congratulations Pearl Magazine on your 10th year Anniversary and to our beloved school on its 20 year Anniversary!

    Wow…..I had forgotten this write up……..it seems I wrote again in 2010. I will try and find it and see how same or different my answers might have been.

  • Overwhelmed?

    We all get to that point where you fight against that feeling of being overwhelmed. That feeling where you know that giving into your thoughts is a bad move. Where you must fight hard against your thoughts. My only weapon, worship songs that I pray would feed my mind and help drown out the feeling of despair.

    Today is Day 17 of DH being hospitalised, and in part, I have been mentally ok for most periods. The exception was Day 11, which I found quite hard. I left the hospital, got on the train, and the reality of the past days came crashing down on me. Seeing someone normally strong become weak is a feeling I can not describe.

    We are on track to get discharged on Day 19. I am happy this part is almost over, but  the road ahead suddenly looks daunting. I know that as God took us through this period and I could look back and say, “It was much smoother than I could imagine”, I am trying to remind my head that the next two months will have the same testimony.

    I spent this evening with NO, who kindly invited me to an event that I accepted blindly, not asking for any details. Turns out it was an evening with Tina Knowles and Stella McCartney….talk about a pleasant surprise. I termed it #timeout as sometimes in life, taking a break from your reality is a necessity.

    Today is also my dear Sister-friend  mums death anniversary, and another close friend lost someone soo dear to her yesterday. Both to C. That news hit bad. I sit at 23.58pm screaming at my brain to not be overwhelmed with the road ahead.

    On a happy note, today is day 155 of my Bible in one year journey.  We are now reading about David. How did I not know he had  lots of wives!😮 Reading the old Testament is not for the faint-hearted.

    To that overwhelming feeling, I say, “This too shall pass, One day at a time, I am not my thought, focus on the present, don’t let your thoughts control you, I’ve survived 100% of every thing I once termed difficult.

    Psalms 61:1-2 NIV
    [1] Hear my cry, O God; listen to my prayer. [2] From the ends of the earth I call to you, I call as my heart grows faint; lead me to the rock that is higher than I.

    This psalm is the basis of a secondary school song that I really loved. How befitting that it is an excerpt from one of the psalms of David.

    The song states, “Hear my cry o Lord, attend unto my prayers.” From the ends of the earth will I cry unto thee. And when my heart is overwhelmed, please lead me to the rock that is higher than I.

    Thankful for my sister, who has been a human rock with her presence and my mum for providing a sense of normalcy at home for our daughter.

    Quotes that I came across that resonated with me.

    “You have dealt with so much and done the best that you can. So, take a moment now to appreciate how strong you are. ” – Karen Salmansohn

    “Don’t believe every worried thought you have. Worried thoughts are notoriously inaccurate.” – Renee Jain

    God is my rock and my  foundation that never changes.

    Welcome to day 18. It is now 00.49am, and it’s time to force my mind and thoughts to shut down whilst listening to My Response by Jubilee Worship.

  • Day 149

    Yep, today is Day 149 of reading my Bible. Safe to say, I am chuffed about this and now have an abject fear of missing 1 day and my Bible app counter turning to zero! I shiver in terror at that thought! LORD, PLEASE HELP ME STAY ON TRACK!

    I am using the plan by Nicky and Pippa Gumbel as that gives me a guide on books and chapters to read. The antidotes are usually interesting and double as life lessons, and their views on the passages are useful guides. My interpretation of some of the verses differs, and that is where it gets interesting.

    The Old Testament is no joke to read. It has turned my head upside down. The book of Judges and Joshua, in fact, going back to preceeding chapters, has been challenging to come to grips with. Only the Holy Spirit can interpret those books, and I know I have to come back again and reread. I look forward to it.

    Have I gotten my answers in month 5? Hmmm, not quite, but things are beginning to get clear. I wrote on 1st December I am on a journey not realising I would indeed go on a journey of myself.

    I know who I am, and I have always been extremely comfortable with who I am. But facing who I am is a different ball game.

    I let things go, I give, expecting nothing in return. But why is that? Is it because it’s who I am? Or am I protecting myself from potentially hurting? I know I deserve to receive love and support, too. Or is it because I understand that we humans are flawed, or is it because I believe the only person you can really afford to depend on is God and yourself. The thing  is, God helps and supports through other humans too….

    A million thoughts still boils down to one phrase.  Be yourself and be your authentic self. I am happy when I give and that is one of my purpose, and God sends the exact support I need through the most unusual ways. Why do I suddenly want to dictate the support I think I need 💭 Let go and Let God.

  • D-Day – 12

    The initial start of Part B is tomorrow, 8th May. It will be a good start by God’s Grace.

    Thankful for a stable frame of mind. I’m not quite there, but it’s better than I was in March.

    I can’t believe we ended up making it to D. It was a good distraction leading up to it. It was busy, it was fun.

    Bros Y asked how he could help. The 1st direct offer of help on Part B, I appreciated seeing that message.

    It’s 4.08am, and I’ve been awake for 30 minutes. My sleep pattern is getting fixed little by little.

    I am nervous, but I want to avoid going into panic mode. I am scared, but my only recourse is to trust God.

    Those who trust in God will not be put to shame.

    Lord, be our Anchor. Send the precise help and support we need at the precise time.

  • Day 4. 13th Apr.

    Day 4 in Switzerland.  We have been very active. Physically active. I have slept about 6 to 7 hours.  Though waking up… but being able  to eventually sleep back.  Is it from exhaustion or from a place of peace or calmness of the mind? Well, time will tell really.  I am just grateful to have been able to sleep somewhat.


    Physically, I am exhausted.  My leg is screaming. But I want to experience Switzerland properly


    Why did it take 8 years to come back?  Life happened, I guess? I have been able to tick a slight bucket list at least, train rides through different towns.


    It was good to see PR. Spoke for over 2 hours.  It was good to talk. I remembered she told me to start journalling. To pour out the  40k words I have inside my head that needs to be expressed daily with no outlet.


    I am thankful for life. For the privilege to be able to embark on this trip. I am grateful to be able to afford to experience this all.


    I hope to remain grateful.  To be able to focus on the good. To remember the positives even when it looks bleak. My mindset will determine alot..